Mistress Khiki
Mistress Khiki learned the hanky code from the back of "Bob Damron's Address Book" when she was fifteen and she's been flagging ever since. Visiting and trying to get into those Leather/Sm "coded clubs" listed in the book and reading magazines like Drummer made her salivate and search for places where the Leather Community gathered. Just a few years later she would find, and be accepted by, the Old Guard men at the Atlanta Eagle - no small thing at that time for a woman. She was mentored and trained in the protocols and etiquette that she holds dear and passes on to this day.
Mistress Khiki is proud to be a founding member of the Southeast Leatherfest Executive Committee and recipient of a 2002 Jack Stice Community Service award. Among her titles are International Master, 1999, the first Ms. Atlanta Eagle (1995) and Ms. Georgia Leather, 1996. Always outspoken, but willing to listen and learn, she has been active since the early '90's in the Atlanta, Southeast regional and national Leather and Master/slave communities as a Master, Owner, presenter, judge, and mentor.
slave jezebel
i was introduced to the scene when i was 19 by a college friend. Although i was too young (and too naive) to understand the significance, i was in the heart of the San Francisco Leather Dyke scene and had some pretty interesting experiences, none of which can be printed here due to decency laws, lifetime confidentiality agreements and dead French masters with no forwarding address.
i've lived in many cities across our country, but i finally settled in Philly, and in 2000-ish i became involved in the Mid-Atlantic Leather/Fetish/Kinky and BDSM communities with a vengeance. In 2011 i moved to Atlanta with my Mistress.
Since 2007 i have done graphic design for many organizations and events within our larger kink and Leather communities such as The Floating World, Master/slave Conference, MAsT (regional and International), The Leather Heart Foundation, MTTA, DC Leather Pride, The Carter/Johnson Leather Library, Art of slavery, BrimStone, Black Phoenix. i travel year round presenting at Leather, kink, and BDSM events across the country. i am the official “genie” of "Mama Vi’s Leather Library," and amin a mentorship program toincrease my skills as an ASL interpreter.
In my free time, all 30 seconds of it, i write and blog about Leather, M/s, etc., bottom to my cats, serve my Mistress, and continue to volunteer in both the Leather and greater Kink/BDSM/M/s communities.
Classes
Power, Authority and Control
Are you someone that finds joy in providing or experiencing tight control or do you find that sort of thing just tiresome micro-management? This class will cover the finer points and subtleties of style as it creates and reflects power, authority and control in M/s relationships. During this class we will discuss what these words really mean and what the real life differences are so you can determine when each is appropriate for your M/s or D/s relationship.
Regularly Evaluating Your M/s or D/s Relationship and Roles
In every relationship, problems can and do arise. While vanilla tactics (communication, honesty, transparency, etc) are critical for a successful relationship, M/s or D/s relationships really do require tactics and strategies specific to hierarchical relationships. Identifying, resolving and avoiding problems in structured relationships requires regular evaluation and re-evaluation of O/our roles and responsibilities. During this class we will discuss how to determine what is and is not working, and how to deal with and implement that information.
The Art of Allowing Service
Slaves and submissives often discuss service - how to provide the service Masters and Dominants really want and how to manage the details of providing service. Interestingly, rare is the discussion about how to accept service and how/when/why to provide or withhold opportunities to serve. During this class we'll discuss what service really is and what to reasonably expect if you are being served (or just want to be). Note: Although this class will include some topics related to providing service, the focus will be on accepting service - how to do it gracefully and with audacity.
Mentoring
We spend much of our lives being socialized to prepare for certain types of relationships. Friendships, relationships with family, vanilla relationships. No one prepares us for Ms, and we need to be prepared and knowledgeable for this very complicated type of relationship dynamic.
So, how do we define and prepare for our roles? How do we become Masters and slaves, proper? In the past, we were taught by someone who knew. The appearance of "the internet" has opened the flood gates and information now flows unfettered and un-vetted into every kinkster's living room. M/s, BDSM, and fetish events are abundant and have, without intention or guidance, almost completely replaced the traditional mentor's role. The ease of information access has opened many doors but the need for individual attention and vetted information has not disappeared. During this class we will discuss the history of the mentoring relationship as well as its role in today's M/s and Leather cultures. We'll discuss how to know when you need a mentor vs. when you just need a friend, how to know if you can or should become a mentor and how negotiate the mentor/mentee relationship - what to expect and what to offer, no matter which side you're on.
Role Call
OMG - not this discussion again! Is it even possible (and why would we even want to) to pursue clear, agreed upon definitions of Master, Dominant, Top, slave, submissive, bottom, boy/boi, girl/grrl? Actually there are some very good reasons for wanting to define these terms - chief among them a better understanding of ourselves, our roles and our expectations. The journey may never end, but is it a progression (from Top to Dominant to Master - from bottom to submissive to slave) or is it the case that each of these roles runs parallel, or is it some combination of a progressive parallel? Come get semantically involved as we discuss it - again.
Can O/our Roles Be Taught
"intrinsic: a quality belonging to a thing by its very nature"
You can be given the "recipe" for Mastery or Dominance and for for slavery or submission - what to do, where to stand, how to say what needs to be said - but can you really be taught "how" to be Dominant or submissive - a Master or a slave? You can teach someone how to kneel and you can teach someone how create opportunities for service, but what makes someone a Master or Dominant? Come join U/us as we discuss learning what to do with the authority you own - whether you want to give it to someone else or own another person's.
Contracts and Negotiation
Contracts can be useful tools in M/s relationships but there are a wide variety of contract types and it can be hard to navigate the choices. This class will examine the reasons for creating a contract, contract negotiations, what should and should not be included in your contract, and how to proceed if you don't want to use a contract but are worried you might need one. If you have a copy of your contract that you want to discuss or if you are developing a contract, please feel free to bring your in-progress or completed documents for discussion.
The Role of Punishment and Discipline in M/s Relationships
There are many perspectives on punishment and discipline in M/s relationships. This class will deal with punishment and discipline as related, rather than exclusive concepts. The type of discipline used to "keep a slave in line" is very different from "discipline play" or role playing with "discipline." For the purposes of this discussion, discipline means disciplinary action. The basis of this class is rooted in the foundation that for long term relationships to work, the relationship must be disciplined and structured all the way around. slaves must know what is expected of them, and that it is not ok to be remiss with duty, language, protocols, etc. Join us as we discuss the role punishment and discipline play in M/s relationships.
M/s Beyond S/m
People often draw together BDSM activities with M/s roles - and the connection seems obvious. Mastery and slavery can (and often do) extend to the dungeon or bedroom but those roles are not rooted there. Those new to M/s (or those transitioning from vanilla to M/s) and even those with more experience often frame their M/s activities around what goes on in the bedroom or dungeon because this seems a natural (and easy) place to "do" (or practice "doing") Mastery and slavery. In fact, a lot of talk about developing Mastery and slavery is done in terms of what goes on in the bedroom or dungeon.
For the purposes of this discussion (and because it's how W/we live), W/we are taking the position that M/s relationship roles ultimately have little or nothing to do with sex or play and that Mastery and slave should be grounded in ritual, protocol and hierarchy. Join U/us as we discuss how to "do," develop and grow your Mastery and slavery without analogies to Sadism and masochism.
Obedience and Service
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Confidence in Mastery
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What is Leather? Past, Present and Future
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Old Guard: History, Myths and Realities
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Multi-slave Households
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