Writing: In a Nut’s Shell

One liners, sentences, and paragraphs about what's on my mind...

Never take yourself too seriously to spread your crazy around. Here’s mine...
One liners, sentences, and paragraphs about what's on my mind...
01/29/10

Just as we sometimes turn adjectives into nouns (Old Guard), I think we need to remember that sometimes we use nouns that should also be thought of as adjectives. Like Master. For me mastery (or M/s) didn't come first. First I was a Top, then a Dominant.^ Both are excellent relationship goals. ^ But being one, the other, or both doesn't make one Master, any more than my qualifications make me a good candidate to be a Daddy, slave, Service Top, etc. That's just not what I am or where my relationship interests are.

I can't understand why so many people are adamantly adverse to just _being what they are._ Everywhere I look I see Tops trying to be Dominants, Dominants trying to be Masters, submissives trying to be slaves, and on and on. People seem to think there is a progression, and for some there is^. But really, there have to be Tops and bottoms, Dominants and submissives, Masters and slaves, and whatever other configurations are out there. Those labels exist for a reason; because those _people_ exist.

It has occurred to me that PROTOCOLS are not just about structure, but are also a jump-off at least for COMMUNICATION. They complement each other.

If you have protocols, meaning specific structured ways of doing things within your M/s -D/s relationship, then they are either obeyed and enforced, or not. One thing to talk about is who is ignoring them (or it) and why.

Sometimes my reason for an order or directive is simply "because I said so." I think that those owned by/in service to me are/have been ok with that because they know that I do have a reason,and know the real or harder reason(s). Or at least that I am on a serious quest for them.

slaves/students sometimes want to know why I require journaling or other substantial writing from them (because I said so:). I have given several reasons, because there are several (at least, and some yet undiscovered I'm sure). I know that writing/journaling can be breadcrumbs, markers, retrospect, and that actually having to go through the motions of writing forces one to think about and examine themselves in a different way. I can add to that list that it improves my Mastery. I am able to look back ten/eleven years at slave/student journals, and see what I could have been doing better or differently, and apply it now to any current situation.

We spend so much time stressing and teaching COMMUNICATION. But, how do we teach effective communication?

The absolute necessity of self knowledge and exploration

And, the knowledge and exploration of each other? By further self examination and knowledge, I think.

If we want to learn anything about our relationships, we have to first learn about, know, and continue to know our selves first, and then our partners. We can never know enough about either, and the learning never stops.

03/25/10

S/m and M/s are not the same. M/s for me and many others is not role play that we put on and take off in the dungeon or play space. It's the way I live - yes, 24/7. I don't turn off the construct of my relationship when I sleep any more than a vanilla married couple divorces every time they sleep, just doesn't work that way. However I do not live S/m 24/7 any more than I write 24/7 or perform any other activity all the time. That's a pretty big difference to me, and I think that people would have more success if they understood each separately rather than trying to lump them together and figure them out as a package.

03/02/10

Masters in Service - Ok - I get it, however;

I like to reserve the word service for my slave(s). In my life the term "service" means something specific to slaves. Something that (aside from community service, etc.) only they have to give-they deserve special terminology that accurately reflects what they do.
What I do that some Masters think of as service I simply do because it seems like the right thing. It's a "caring human response" and that's all to me, and to my slave(s).
Unfortunately many things in life are dictated by economic situations, so being a Master/Mistress does not automatically afford me the option of living a life of luxury. Ok, maybe more than most non M/s couples, but not entirely. We all know there's not a lot of true life "Story of o" action going on, even in reverse. So -duh-I'm gonna wash a dish, gonna do a chore ( just the one :). But, it's not a service any more than giving a hug is...